From the Ego to the Heart!
if you have to do one resolution for the New Year focus on that one and embrace your true self!
Most human groups suffer from constant
personality clashes between its members. Confronting individual interests and
domination attempts against each other are commonplace. Of course, this kind of
conflicts make it impossible to achieve any kind of harmony, hindering team
work, causing stress among people and a myriad of other problems, including
illnesses.
It is thus fundamental for the
well-being of everyone to learn how to listen, accept our differences and build
together a more peaceful way of living.
Following are five
recommendations to help you transcend the Ego.
1. Don’t be offended
If you are looking for reasons to be
offended, you’ll find them every few minutes. This mindset weakens you, forcing
you to stay defensive or belligerent, wasting way too much energy and mental
focus in unnecessary confrontations.
By letting go, you will open yourself
to many more opportunities, and enjoying a richer life.
Being offended creates destructive
energy, leading to a never ending series of attacks and counter attacks. Of
course, you should still be offended by the many horrific things that happen in
this World, but by not letting your ego constantly complain about small things,
you will learn to truly focus on those things that are truly important and
affect all of us dramatically as a group and as individuals -poverty, wars, the
environment, etc.
Stay calm and live in peace.
2. Get rid of the need to win and to be right
To win is a foolproof method to avoid
contact with your true self. The need to win is a never ending rat race that
will never allow you to step aside and reflect on your actions. You cannot win
all the time. Let go the need for recognition. Forget the need to win and to be
right, and your life will improve overnight.
You don’t need to impose yourself to
feel right. In fact, living in a state of permanent competition against others
is very detrimental for yourself. I have seen many relationships get screwed by
the need of certain people to be always right. Don’t let that happen, it will
ruin your life and that of those around you.
“We must go
beyond the constant clamour of ego, beyond the tools of logic and reason, to the
still, calm place within us: the realm of the soul.” – Deepak Chopra
3. Overcome the need to feel superior
Improving has nothing to do with being
better than others. Improving is all about being better than you were last day.
Focus on your inner growth, being constantly aware that no one is better than
anyone else on this planet.
The ego tends to
judge everyone and everything based on the appearance, achievements,
possessions, value and other metrics that make sense only from the ego point of
view. It loves to divide
people between winners and losers. These kind of feelings lead to resentment,
confrontation and hostility against each other. These feelings will pull you
apart from others, and apart from the true enjoyment of life.
4. Overcome the need for more
The ego is never satiated. It doesn’t
matter how much you have, your ego will keep on asking for more. It is never
enough, you will be trapped.
Ironically, when you overcome the ego,
it feels as if you have more than you want. You will realise how little you
really need, and will be at peace. You will be pleased with yourself by simply
living.
5. Overcome the need for accomplishments
It may be a difficult to achieve this
if you identify yourself with all the things you have done. You are not your
achievements. In fact, you’re not your body. You are merely an observer. Look
around and appreciate the capabilities that you have at your disposal to
achieve things since you were born, but don’t let your ego take credit for it
all.
After all, you are part of something
much bigger than yourself, have always been and will always be. The
reputation that you identify yourself with is located in the minds of
others. It’s an illusion, and it shouldn’t control you. If you talk to thirty
different people, all thirty will have different opinions.
Stop and meditate. Reconnect with the
World. Follow what you truly believe is your goal in this World, beyond what
others think you should do at all. If you worry about how others perceive your
actions, you will end up losing touch with your true self.
One last line of advice I would like to
give you all is to keep on going!
Your ego is something that has been
formed from your conditioning and habits and you WILL be able to let go of your
ego with practice of the above.
Sending you all my love...
Laura xoxo
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