6 signs you have a low self esteem
Confidence
is key, we all know it, and have heard it before. The thing is, a lot of
us don’t know where exactly do we stand concerning our confidence
level. A lot of people have low self-confidence but aren’t aware enough
to realise it.
Low self-confidence manifests in a constant feeling
of inferiority and helplessness that will stop you from moving forward
and accomplishing anything in life., and as opposed to what you may be
thinking, it’s a pretty common issue.
The following signs will help you determine if you have low self-confidence:
1. You try to change yourself to please others
There
are a lot of things that will challenge your mental strength everyday,
so you have to be grounded in something so you’re not the victim of
life. Studies have shown that the majority of people are afraid of
speaking in public. Why do you think is that? Because they are afraid of
being judged by others.
When you’re unconfident, you put other’s
opinions before your own, so you find yourself living your life in a way
you don’t like, to please people you don’t like. When you look at it
this way, it’s seems absurd, but that’s the truth, because you
constantly feel bad about yourself, and because you’re not
self-sufficient, you always look for approval from others to prove to
yourself that you’re doing the right thing.
Deep down you feel like you shouldn’t do this, but you lack the courage to act on it and be yourself, because you’re afraid that if you are yourself then no one will like you.
2. You always doubt your judgement
If
you’re overly indecisive, and you notice that you’re always wondering
what to do, you find yourself turning to others to look for the answer
instead of taking your own decisions by yourself, then chances are
you’re lacking confidence.. When you’re always relying on other people
to make your decisions for you, you’re basically giving up the control
over your own life to someone else, just because you think you’re not
capable of taking your own decisions the right way.
3. You allow others to put you down
If
you notice that people always criticise you, put you down, and mistreat
you but you never stand up for yourself, then you certainly have low
confidence. That’s a big red flag. When you’re not confident, it shows,
and some people will take advantage of it. When you’re not confident,
you tend to allow others to bully you while you just put up with it.
When someone says something bad about you, or offends you, the reason
why you’re not standing up for yourself because you feel like you kind
of deserve it, like it’s somehow your fault, also deep down you secretly
agree with them in a way.. You can’t stand up for yourself when you
don’t even believe that you are worthy of good treatment and equal
respect with others.
4. You have self-limiting beliefs
We
talked about how you let people put you down, but that’s because you
have an internal problem within you, which is that you can’t actually
believe you can or are worthy of success, happiness, and peace of mind.
You always think you can’t do something, that you lack the ability, but
that’s all in your head.
Self-limiting
beliefs mean will always keep you in your corner, blocking you from
accomplishing what you want. If you’re the type of person who’s always
looking for excuses rather than reasons to take action, and always
thinking that you can’t achieve what you want, then you fit into this
category.
The
truth is,, and even if it’s hard to believe, that you, like everyone
else have a large potential that is not used. You may be asking, if
everyone has that much potential then how come so many people are just
average? That’s because of their own beliefs about themselves, because
everyone thinks that it’s impossible to accomplish anything of great
value, most people never try. I mean, why try when you think it’s not
even possible right?
5. You always feel inferior to other people
Do
you always fee like everyone is somehow better than you? It’s like
everything is great for everyone else except you, right? If you find
yourself constantly feeling like everyone is better than you, like
you’re always inferior, you have low self- confidence.
This is just a
matter of bad perspective, because when you’re not confident, everyone
seems to have it, but the truth is it’s just seems that way because
you’re so unconfident. When you think everyone is better than you, it’s
just your feelings that are blinding you from the truth.
I mean think
about it, if people were that great, how come the vast majority of them
ends up being ‘normal’? What’s so great about it?
6. You over-analyse what people say to you
This
is a very common behavior of someone who lacks assurance. When you’re
repeatedly replaying what someone said to you, or a bad comment someone
has made on something you did, or your personality, and you’re worrying
that they might be right, this is the biggest signs that shows absence
of self-assurance.
In my next post I will give you some tips to overcome that ... stay tuned
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