Why the tinder era sucks for the 40's woman I am...
We are officially in the
"Tinder" era. Back in the day, it was MSN messenger
for me. Then it developed into Facebook. Then dating got fancy and introduced
websites like POF and OK Cupid. Now, it's all about Tinder.
Prior
online dating, we were
relying on the natural way of meeting someone, which is through mutual friends or
based on mere coincidences and the connection between a man and a woman was less superficial.
We
often have mistaken that online dating and tinder have made it so easy for men
and women to meet, socialise, have sex, whatever their goals are.
We are in the era of consumption, the more we
get the more we want and online dating and dating app know how to feed our weak
ego.That
feeling when you get "It's a Match", it's like a bliss of euphoria!
"Who could this person be?" But most of the time, you end up being disappointed and just move
on to the next match.
After coming from almost two decade relationships with a small breathing time in between, and then being suddenly single; I did not know how to navigate the ‘modern dating scene’ anymore.
It
seemed for me that love in the modern era was definitely trickier,
muddier.
Online dating has made the dating game a numbers game (and I always preferred
quality over quantity). It was supposed to make things easier, but it made things harder
for me at the same time.
Everyone’s
suddenly commitment-phobic, hooking up is normal, and everything is
all about instant gratification. There are now several relationship
statuses created by millennial dating; a spectrum of greys that were once just
black-and-white: Casual dating, ‘just hanging out’, laissez-faire, FWBs, Cuddle
Buddies, Hotline Blings, one-sided relationships, on-again, off-again couples…
a lot of these definitely didn’t exist the last time I was last single.
And
yet, people still yearn for that real connection. You can tell by the
lines shared on your news feed and the number of Thought Catalog articles
complaining about the same thing. We all want the same, REAL THING but everyone
just pretends to not give a damn.
Modern
dating is just like Game of Thrones. There’s just too many characters to keep track
of, and you seriously can’t get attached to any of them, because you know
nothing so good would last too long. Love in the time of tinder is a lot
like love in the time of cholera.
I’m
not saying finding love online is not possible. Some people swear by it. It was
an easy choice to disconnect for me.
I
need that spur-of-the-moment, unpremeditated element. That real and rare
connection. I need to see the madness in YOUR eyes AND WHAT MATTERS REALLY FOR
ME IS … I just need to know if we’re THE SAME BRAND OF CRAZY 😊
Bonne
soiree mes amis…
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